Part 3 :- Should you regret being a giver? (My tales. My heart-talks.)

I'm sure many of you would have at some point come across this quotation or something similar -

"Those who give light to others, never really lack it for themselves."

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 To be very honest, I have never really believed this school of thought which leads me to think in yet another way- "Is it okay to burn yourself just for the sake of keeping others warm?"
It's been quite some time since I have been a regular giver, so much that it has now become a part of my existence, a part of my shaped-personality. I won't exaggerate or boast around but I've been a 'giver' always in all ways I could possibly be.

Forgiveness? - Given.
Love? - Given.
Care? - Given.

Time? - Given.
Honest promises? - Given.
Helping Hand? - Given.
Tears? - Given.
Laughter? - Given.   

St. Therese de Lisieux said beautifully , "Miss no single opportunity of making some small sacrifice, here by a smiling look, there by a kindly word, always doing the smallest right and doing it all for love." 
It has always been an unsaid way of the world to overlook the happiness of those who radiate it the most. People rather go by the common myth that they might have happiness in plenty and maybe that's the reason they are freely giving it out so much. 

But the truth is that those who give away such emotions usually crave for them the most. For example, being a giver you keep giving all your love and happiness , it is not only because you get satisfied by radiating happiness but also because YOU want to be loved and cared for in return. 

People mostly come to you to lighten their heavy, sorrowful hearts and as they get to know you more, they develop a thought that maybe nothing ever hurts you. You've been such a forgiving person, always carrying that bright curve of smile on your lips that people eventually start to dust off their mistakes by simply saying a "Sorry :( " . You give them your forgiveness but on the inside, even the smallest act saddens you. You eventually start to feel 'lonely' , watching silently as people arrive and leave, telling their sad tales and accepting your love and happiness.
            
Now the question arises, "Should I regret being a giver?" Well, that's a complex thing to answer. If I tell you that yes of course you shouldn't always be giving so much that you end up feeling lonely; you may argue, "But that's the way I am! I find it hard to change my personality." On the contrary, if I tell you that no, givers should never regret then you may argue that, "But then nobody cares about how I feel." It can be answered either way, only depends on what YOU want to hear actually. 

Being a giver myself, I know in my heart that even if I get hurt, I will eventually resume my giving.  It's not because I am insane but because that is how I function- I just cannot un-love people and I just cannot see people around me feel low or hurt themselves. This default mode of mine is so intense that even if I have to fake my smile and hide my pain- I would. I don't know how many people are actually able to resonate with me right now but that won't stop me from accepting this fact about myself.
 

G.K Chesterton has rightly said, "It is easy to be heavy, hard to be light." Or putting simply - it is very easy to be sad and unhappy, but very hard to be light and smiling always. The latter option takes way more courage and strength. And to sum up everything- whether it is right to always be a giver or should you stop giving too much, whether a paining heart is easy to bear or not when you have to smile all the time- the one advice which cannot be ignored is- There is already too much to pain out there.
"Givers should set their limits because takers never will!" So be as much loving as you can. When things become unbearable- Just leave with a smile and let the universe know, "Thank You for making me experience this!" 

With Love,
LIFENICHE :)