Part 4 :- 'Expectations'- we have from people and the feelings when they don't get fulfilled; How to deal with it?

We keep a lot of expectations from people and the way they 'should' be acting. From the smallest examples of life to the bigger ones - majority of disappointments arise from unfulfilled expectations.

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Recently, I have been dealing with a lot of such disappointments- both minor and major ones. Why? Because 'I' wanted certain things to happen, 'I' expected people of act in a particular way, 'I' wanted to be in-touch of ALL updates of my loved-ones and 'I' wanted a few things to go as I expected. Do you see the pattern? Most of the unhappy vibes are caused because you yourself wanted certain things to happen in order to be happy. When you stop giving too much thought about it, you will realize that those were just minor things you could have dealt with well, even by not getting sad about it.

While talking about all such situations, you might have heard people say, "Ah! Expectations KILL you, so never keep them. Expectations are bad...." etc. Sharing a few quotes below as an example for what majority of people think.

I am sure MANY of you would have read such quotes already and might have even resonated your frequency with them. I am not against any perspective but what I know for sure is that this perspective does not change the situation in any way - let alone be the question of decreasing your mental pain. 

Hence, the question stays there, "What to do?" Well, have you ever successfully stopped showing your love? Have you EVER stopped showing your anger, ego or jealously? Did it EVER occur to you to stop being happy FOREVER just because of one little sad incident? No, right? To all the people out there reading this right now, I just want you to know that 'expectations' , like all other human emotions are a part of us. No matter how hard you try , no matter how bad things have been for you, still, at some point when hope comes riding in your life, when the spark of true love starts shining again for you, I bet you'll start to expect a little, again. 

It is just the way our emotions are meant to be. Even the bravest of hearts have at least once had expectations and there is nothing to feel bad about it.

Once you learn to accept your emotions, you will learn to handle them as well. As long as you keep repeating to yourself not to have expectations, the emotions will surely come back to you with greater impact than you thought. So, towards the end, I won't say that expectations don't hurt, or you should not be having those; all I want you to know is just learn to accept the things as they are. 

Whatever people do, it reveals a lot about them and you'll have to grow through these emotions if you want to live a happier life. Think about it! 

Loads of Love,

LIFENICHE.